Women, love, and intimacy "gone wrong": Fire, wind, and ice

Although questions about why so many women "love to love" and why some stay with abusive lovers may seem cliched, they are questions over which many people still muse. Using a collage of ideas drawn from a wide range of sources, including 83 narrative feminist interviews that were conducted from 2000 to 2004, I respond to these questions, trying to show some of the inducements that are made to women to love others. The simulated diary entries of one (composite) woman suggest that as many women enter monogamous coupledom, there are unexpected (but all too common) problems of intimacy.