The experience of breast cancer in mothers of dependent children and the strategies these women use to handle their situation of illness in relation to the children was the locus of this study. Ten women with nonrecurrent breast cancer were interviewed using phenomenology as a theoretical framework. The findings reveal that the women needed to balance themselves from being needed and perhaps not existing, balancing between demands, a will to be strong and allowing herself to be sick, and balancing between telling the truth and protecting the children from the truth. The women had strategies to help them in this struggle. To carry on as usual and continue everyday life became very important to them. To do this they had to combine their own strength with Support from others and try to turn things into a positive perspective. The essential meaning of living with breast cancer and having dependent children implied using the strength of motherhood to balance conflicting forces and thereby continuing everyday life. The clinical implications include awareness and support to maintain everyday routines and generate strength.
