This study compared the competency of responses offered by spouses in violent and nonviolent marriages to problematic marital and nonmarital situations. Twenty-five maritally violent and distressed, IO nonviolent but maritally distressed, and 23 nonviolent and nondistressed couples participated. Each spouse listened to narrations of marital and nonmarital (e.g., boss or friend) problematic situation vignettes. Participants were asked what they would say and do in each situation. A coding system designed with input from nonviolent, happily married individuals showed that violent spouses provided less competent responses than nonviolent spouses for both marital and nonmarital situations and for both Ist and 2nd responses. The findings suggest that violent-distressed spouses have particular difficulty with marital situations.