Single crystal X-ray diffraction studies and ab initio calculations up to the MP2/6-31G* level of theory were carried out for the isoelectronic compounds (Me2N)(3)PBH3, (Me2N)(3)PNH and (Me2N)(3)PO. The calculations predict all three compounds to adopt C-s symmetry in the ground state. The alternative geometries with local or total C-3 symmetry also correspond to local minima on the potential hypersurface. In the solid state (Me2N)(3)PBH3 and (Me2N)(3)PNH do not obey exact C-s symmetry, but are close to it, while (Me2N)(3)PO shows crystallographic mirror symmetry. The structural data are compared with earlier studies on (Me2N)(3)PCH2 and the free phosphine P(NMe2)(3), which both are also almost C-s symmetric. In the series (Me2N)(3)P-X (X = BH3, CH2, NH or O) the P-X bond lengths decrease, the P-N (pseudo) in plane distances are 1.683(1), 1.698(4), 1.677(1) and 1.659(1) Angstrom, the (pseudo) out of plane P-N distances are (av. = average) 1.654(av.), 1.668(av.), 1.656(av.) and 1.649(1) Angstrom. The (pseudo) in plane angles X-P-N are 114.9(1), 122.4(4), 120.2(1) and 118.7(1)degrees, while the (pseudo) out of plane angles X-P-N are 112.3(av.), 110.0(av.), 110.4(av.) and 110.0(av.)degrees. In all structures the NMe2 groups in the (pseudo) plane of symmetry are steeply pyramidal at nitrogen, while the (pseudo) out of plane NMe2 groups are markedly flattened. The other structural parameters are also discussed in comparison. Ab initio calculations (MP2/6-31G*) on the isoelectronic (Me2N)(3)PF+ predict this system to favour C-3 over C-s symmetry. In contrast, the parent system (H2N)(3)PF+ is predicted to prefer C-s symmetry.