What Do Women Lose if They Are Prevented From Meeting Their Breastfeeding Goals?

This article explores the complex issue of breastfeeding and maternal mental health. Many women stop breastfeeding before they are ready, often leading to feelings of anxiety, guilt, and anger. Critics of breastfeeding promotion blame breastfeeding advocates for this impact, claiming that if the focus were merely on feeding the baby, with all methods equally valued and supported, maternal mental health would be protected. Established health impacts of infant feeding aside, this argument fails to account for the importance of maternal breastfeeding goals, or the physical and emotional rewards breastfeeding can bring. Although some women will take comfort in the message that what matters most is that the baby is fed, others view such suggestions as a lack of recognition of their wishes and the loss that they feel, exacerbating their grief and frustration. The purpose of this article is to highlight the importance of recognizing and valuing women's individual breastfeeding goals, and not dismissing or invalidating their experience if they do not meet these by telling them that they do not matter. To move forward, we must recognize the impact of all infant feeding experiences, consider the impact of public messaging, and work to support more women to meet their goals.